Preparing for the Holiday Season: Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday with a Family Member Diagnosed with Dementia
Contributed by Matt Matlock, PT, DPT, DOCS
The holidays require special considerations when a family member has been diagnosed with dementia. By planning ahead, you can create a meaningful experience for everyone involved.
Plan Ahead
- Discuss plans with family members in advance to ensure everyone understands how to best support the individual diagnosed with dementia.
- Consider laying out boundaries for communication (for example, questions or topics to avoid).
- Remind attendees that the person diagnosed with dementia may not remember who they are.
- Create a schedule for the day to provide structure to help reduce anxiety.
Keep it Familiar
- Maintain a familiar environment by hosting the gathering at the family member’s home if possible.
- Stick to traditional foods and activities that the person recognizes and enjoys.
Simplify Decorations:
- Avoid overwhelming decorations. Keep the environment calm and clutter-free to minimize confusion and distraction.
Limit Guest List:
- Consider keeping the guest list smaller to reduce noise and chaos. Familiar faces can be comforting.
Create a Quiet Space:
- Designate a quiet area where the person can retreat if they feel overwhelmed. This space should be comfortable and calming.
Encourage Involvement:
- Engage the family member in simple, enjoyable tasks like setting the table or stirring a dish. This can help them feel included without being overwhelmed.
Use Clear and Simple Communication:
- Speak clearly and simply. Use short sentences and direct questions to avoid confusion.
Be Patient:
- Understand that changes in routine can be disorienting. Be prepared for repetitive questions or confusion and respond with patience and reassurance.
Focus on Senses:
- Engage their senses with familiar smells, tastes, and sounds. Playing their favorite music or reminiscing about past holidays can evoke positive memories.
Monitor Energy Levels:
- Keep an eye on their energy and mood. If they seem tired or agitated, it might be time for a break or to end the festivities.
Limit Alcohol:
- If alcohol is present, be mindful of how it might affect both the individual diagnosed with dementia and the overall atmosphere.
Have a Backup Plan:
- Prepare for unexpected situations. Have calming activities ready, such as puzzles or favorite books, to redirect attention if needed.
Include a Care Partner:
- If possible, have a family member or care partner attend specifically to help manage the individual’s needs throughout the day.
Create New Traditions:
- Consider incorporating new traditions that accommodate the needs of your loved one. This can include shorter gatherings or different activities that everyone can enjoy.
Practice Self-Care:
- Caring for someone who has been diagnosed with dementia can be challenging. Make sure you take breaks, stay hydrated, and ask for help when needed.
From the National Council of Certified Dementia Practitioners (NDDCP). For more information, visit the NDDCP website.
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